I recently had the opportunity to spend some time in my hometown. Every time I am there and have an opportunity to drive around, I recall some great memories. I think back on some very good friends, some great experiences, being a part of state championship teams, and many more nice memories. But I also go back and recall all the things I wish I would have done differently. These “regrets” haunt me from time to time and overshadow all the good things if I am not careful. You see, for me, these regrets are almost always things I failed to do for one reason or the other. There were so many occasions where I chose the easy route, the comfortable choice, or the one that required the least of me. There were opportunities to step up and make a difference that I didn’t take. There were selfish decisions that I made that ignored what was best for others. I can’t go back and undo those things, but I sure wish I could.
Regrets are hard to overcome. At best, you learn to manage it and focus on the future trying not to recreate the same short-sighted mistakes. I don’t know if you battle these type issues or not, but if you are like me, it’s something you do have to deal with.
With that in mind, don’t spend time going back and dwelling on the past (goodness knows I need to do that less); but rather focus on today. What do you need to do today so that you don’t have any regrets? In the work setting, are you doing all you can to impact those that you lead? Are there issues you need to address before something happens that you would regret? Are there conversations you need to have that will be uncomfortable for you? Are there tough choices you need to make to ensure things get better for your team?
Don’t take the easy, comfortable, safe route each day. Are you really making a difference and impacting people? That’s what leadership is all about.
What do you need to do today in order to not have regrets tomorrow? No regrets!